Many of you know that I made a post yesterday regarding a negative comment that I received on my blog. I posted the comment and my response to the person who did not leave their name nor a valid email address. I decided to take the post down because I think it was creating too much negativity in my own mind. Many of you have read the post, even though I deleted it, because it shows up on your RSS feeds.
I want to thank each and everyone of you who have emailed me privately in response to the negative comment. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your support and your kind words. I know there are so many good, kind, loving, and non-judgmental people out there and many of you read my blog and offer your support. You are all amazing women and I feel lucky to have formed these on-line friendships with you. Thank you.
I have decided that I am going to monitor the comments for awhile. I have no problem with people having opinions - but I refuse to be personally attacked and judged. For good reason, I have not disclosed the very private and painful reasons that have led to the demise of my family. I will say that I believed in my family and I fought tooth and nail to keep my family intact. However, after many many years I decided that staying in my marriage was more harmful to me as a person and I am better off not being in it. Making that decision took a good three years and it was sad, painful, and heartbreaking. I have no regrets. I now am in a wonderful and loving relationship and my children get to witness that love and respect. For the first time in a long time I finally feel like my future can be happy and bright. It is a good feeling. I refuse to let anyone take that away from me.
I have amazing parents. One thing my mom and dad always taught me was to not judge other people. I have always been so grateful to my parents for teaching me that it is important to have an open mind and an open heart and to not judge. We are all human. We all have feelings. And we all know pain. We never know what people are really going through on the inside or behind closed doors - just as you did not know what was going on in my life behind the blog until I disclosed just a small amount of it.
We all have our own belief systems and not everyone is going to fit into it. However, just because someone does not fit into our belief system it does not mean that they are a bad person. Judging is part of human nature - but being open to accepting people as they are, regardless of your own beliefs, makes us better people. It also makes us more forgiving. Attacking someone because they don't believe the way you do is not only narrow in view but is mean spirited.
So, my negative commenter, I am not going to judge you. If you can't handle the contents of my blog then please don't read it. Try to restrain yourself from attacking others who are not like you or whom don't believe as you do. I hope, if anything, that you find the peace and love in your life that I have found so that your heart is more open and loving to those good people in the world whom don't fit your standards. That sort of open mindedness comes with being happy with who you are the inside.
I will personally respond to all of you who have emailed me personally. It will just take me a sometime because I want to do it thoughtfully. I can't tell you how much your kind words mean to me. Your emails brightened my day.
As for knitting - I will be posting about Cassidy tomorrow and I can't wait! I love, love the sweater!